Wednesday, March 21, 2012

People Behaving Badly

Why is it that in life the "good" people follow rules, do as they are told, and make the best of bad situations, but people who are the exact opposite always get what the good people strive for???

I am sure this is a million dollar question, but it really drives me bonkers. Is it because those people who bend the rules, live with wild abandon, and pout and cause a scene are the squeaky wheel, and the society is just trying to pacify them so that they don't have to deal with them??? Well, it seems that way to me. I am a rule follower, people pleaser (as previously stated) who strives to follow the rules and do what is right as often as I can. Maybe, it seems this way because I am so scared to break the rules, because I will be the one who gets caught. And because of how I live my life, it will be disappointing to important people... so, I just grit my teeth at those who do what ever feels good and steal my thunder.

Recently, I was stuck in the middle of rock and a hard place where this exact thing was going on. It wasn't fair to anyone including the (lets call them) squeaky wheel. I just pulled up my boot straps and tried to make the best of the situation. Well, much to my surprise (sarcasm if you don't pick it up), the wheel, was completely oblivious to it's part in the total upheaval of a multitude of people. Why is it that wheels like this DON'T see it? I so wish I could have those rose colored glasses to live life through. In this situation, I remained strong and eventually, I spoke up. It took a little while, but finally it was "fixed." So, does speaking up "fix" this everytime??? NO. Sometimes it makes things worse.

Then more recently, I was again put in a situation where, another wheel complained enough to again put me in the rock and hard place again. Question: Do I have GLUTTON FOR PUNISHMENT on my forehead??? No, I just take what I am given and make lemonade. But, I am beginning to wonder... Why can't others make their lemonade, instead of me making it for them?

Why can people just let their houses go and steal everything out of the house and move on like nothing is wrong. Who has to pay for this? ME and the people who end up buying the houses... The difference is that the people buying at least get a great deal, and I get people not seeing my house because its not on clearance.

Why are there some parents out there that act all but, put out that they have children to "deal" with? When so many of us others would die to have children?

But more to the point, why is ok for people to behave badly and then those of us who don't get to sit the bench and watch our dreams through their lives? My dad would say,"It builds character." But, should those squeaky wheels need to build character too? I guess this is one thing much like IF that I will never understand. But, it does help me self-assess and try with all my might not become the squeaky wheel. But, I will voice my opinion so those who need to know will know how I feel.

I really needed to post this a while ago, but just haven't had the time or could get my thoughts in the right order. I hope this makes sense.

Dear Lord,
Please give me peace of mind about this. I know I am not supposed to understand, I know that you have something AMAZING planned for my life. I just needed to put this out there.
Thanks for all the many blessings you have given and continue to give me! I am truly blessed!

Tuesday, March 13, 2012

Spring Break!!!

Well, we are on spring break. I am trying to take it so easy. But, this is day two and I have been to the dentist both days - Monday, teeth cleaning, today, cavity filled. Lets just say, I better nothave to go back for at least 6 months lol.

I have a multitude of projects to do this week, and tomorrow is already Wednesday! Why does the time go so fast??? So far, I have made a couple door signs out of burlap, planted pansies in the planters on my front stoop, contemplated, decided on, and stained the cedar shutters my sweet hubs made me for Valentine's day. I am currently working on a door sign for our front door. But, I have 3 vinyl and wood signs to make (one of which is for A my prayer buddy from like 3 buddy cycles ago. Yep, I procrastinate MUCHO). I also have the column on our front porch to stain and a couple of cakes over the next few days. Some how I need to make it to the doctor, get my hair done (although that might be on hold due to a death in my friend's family), and I really wanted to get my dogs worked on. I need a pedicure like no other!!! I might need to take my hand held sander with me for my heels they are BAD!
Here a few pics of things I have been working on:

I made this cake this past weekend for a sweet friend's little boy.

I mad this for my sweet friend's baby girl that was born on Thursday night. I also made another one this weekend for a friend.

This is today's project staining our shutters. I have to get more stain in the am to do the column.

But, I did do something that I have been dragging my feet about off and on for months. Recently, the baby cycle started again. Yes, that is how I think of it, because about the time all my friends have finished having their babies, a whole new set of women I know one way or another start announcing they too are now starting a new 9 month cycle. Well, I guess it was over the weekend, after seeing a bunch of FB announcements and while I was sitting in my car with Zeke and waiting on showings no doubt, that I was done waiting, being too busy, letting life get in the way... So, I got on-line and filled out the pre-application for the adoption agency we were thinking of going with. Now I am just waiting on them to get back with me. If I don't hear back in the next day or so, I am going to call them. We need to get the ball rolling. I am ready to be the one announcing. I am ready to move from always being the wife, not the mom.

My thoughts for Spring 2012

Monday, March 12, 2012

Random Thoughts at 2:47 am by: Yours Truly

Ok, I have not had time to blog and have had multiple blogs to post on, but like I said I need a few extra hours in the day in order to get that done. So... first night of Spring Break and I have MASSIVE heartburn and can't sleep. Hopefully what I am about to write will make some sort of sense and get me back on track for posting. We shall see. haha

First of all, life has been going so fast lately, I am not sure if I am coming or going most of the time. It seems like it was just the new year and its already the middle of March. We haven't had but like 2 cold days this winter, so maybe that is why it seems like the year is flying by. No snow, in fact on days we were going to see snow we didn't because it was like late spring type temps. Who ever thought it could be 70 in Jan. & Feb??? Maybe if you live in FL... or in the case Memphis, TN. Anyway, now that it should be getting warmer, we have had a few cold days. WTH?

Teacher evaluations... enough said. Most of my school year has been focused on stressing out about 2 hours, or 2 one hour evals. The first one as I wrote back in Dec. was less that desirable. My second was a couple of weeks ago, and "WHO ROCKED THE EVAL???," You ask? ME! Oh yeah it was great. The kids all did what they were supposed to, the lesson was great, and did I mention this was the drop in? Let's just say, the scores were amazing! I am so proud of myself. In fact, it made me feel so much better, after the last 3 months of questioning if being the average Joe wasn't just a OK. This evaluation showed the teacher that I really am, and made me stop questioning my "3"ness. It was great because the person who evaluated me, also evaluated me last year, so she was able to see the growth from this time last year to now, on top of the the the things I scored 3s in the first eval. She said it was never bad before, but this year's was amazing the change from before. I am a life long learner and the pleaser type personality. It killed me that got 3s on the first eval. So, I really took what was said to heart (probably a little too much, as I actually thought about becoming the walmart greeter at times over the past 3 months) and changed my approach and BAM 4s and 5s!

Having a house on the market is, well lets put it nicely a living nightmare right now. With the housing market in the toilet, I am just happy to get a call for a showing. But, with houses in my hood selling for less that $100,000 because of foreclosure, it makes it hard on a girl who isn't trying to get out the easy way. Sure I could do like most the people in my little starter home community do and let my house go, strip it of all the electrical, appliances, and such. But, being the responsible citizen and adult, I can't let myself be that irresponsible. So, my responsibility gets trampled on by those irrational people who think that they can truly get a move in ready home for less that nothing. (OK I might be on a tirade, bear with me) This week to my surprise we have had 3 calls for showings. One of which was cancelled because they called to show at the exact time they were calling and both of us were at work and missed the call, and couldn't have gotten the dog anyway. The other two this weekend. Here are my complaints about these two showings in bullet form :)
By the way their feedback was "Buyer thought the house needs carpet and paint now."
  • Saturday's showing was from 10 - 11 am. They showed up at 10:57
  • They stayed for 20 mins (making me think oh they must like)
  • First of all, we have new carpet in the front of the house, and $1000 in carpet allowance for the bedrooms of which is really more than enough CASH at closing for new carpet in 3 bedrooms.
  • Second, we painted everything right before we put it on the market.
  • Third, we are practically giving our house away (less than I originally paid for it) there have to be concessions made when buying a house. GET REAL!
  • My closing comment - You will not find a house in this area this well kept and move in ready. You obviously don't have a rational idea of what you can afford and/or what is out there. I would love to see what they actually buy.
Sunday showing feedback:"showed o.k., client wasn't satisfied that this was the one however."
  • First of all, who ends a statement with however? that goes at the front of a sentence.
  • Second, the showing time was from 1 - 2 pm. The agent did show up until 2:25 the people sat in our driveway from 2 to 25 then got out for like 5 mins... never even saw them go into the house.
  • Third, I would love to see what they say about foreclosed houses... if our was just OK.
  • Closing comment - I am absolutely OK with the fact that our house might not be the one, but when you drive up late for the appointment in your ghetto sled and don't even go in my house, I would probably prefer you not give feedback.
I guess I am just hung up on common courtesy. Show up for the appointment when you say you want it,(last Sat. showing just didn't even show up) people live in the house you are looking at and its rude to impose on my time and then leave crapy feedback. So far only 2 or 3 of the 19 showings we have had have left any feedback that is useful. Of course both were things that I can't change(bathroom too small). And then the carpet thing, so we allowed for the $1000 to replace it. I also wonder what these people end up buying because I have looked at the houses in our area for sale, and its not pretty. I Just can't believe that not a single showing has even put a low ball offer in. I mean no where does it say we are set in stone or firm on the price ( even though we aren't going much lower). Sorry for the rant, I needed to get that off my chest.

Back to the heart burn, I rarely have hb and Tums or a coke usually do the trick. This week I have had this 3 nights and it is driving me nuts. Please offer any ideas you have.