I am sure this is a million dollar question, but it really drives me bonkers. Is it because those people who bend the rules, live with wild abandon, and pout and cause a scene are the squeaky wheel, and the society is just trying to pacify them so that they don't have to deal with them??? Well, it seems that way to me. I am a rule follower, people pleaser (as previously stated) who strives to follow the rules and do what is right as often as I can. Maybe, it seems this way because I am so scared to break the rules, because I will be the one who gets caught. And because of how I live my life, it will be disappointing to important people... so, I just grit my teeth at those who do what ever feels good and steal my thunder.
Recently, I was stuck in the middle of rock and a hard place where this exact thing was going on. It wasn't fair to anyone including the (lets call them) squeaky wheel. I just pulled up my boot straps and tried to make the best of the situation. Well, much to my surprise (sarcasm if you don't pick it up), the wheel, was completely oblivious to it's part in the total upheaval of a multitude of people. Why is it that wheels like this DON'T see it? I so wish I could have those rose colored glasses to live life through. In this situation, I remained strong and eventually, I spoke up. It took a little while, but finally it was "fixed." So, does speaking up "fix" this everytime??? NO. Sometimes it makes things worse.
Then more recently, I was again put in a situation where, another wheel complained enough to again put me in the rock and hard place again. Question: Do I have GLUTTON FOR PUNISHMENT on my forehead??? No, I just take what I am given and make lemonade. But, I am beginning to wonder... Why can't others make their lemonade, instead of me making it for them?
Why can people just let their houses go and steal everything out of the house and move on like nothing is wrong. Who has to pay for this? ME and the people who end up buying the houses... The difference is that the people buying at least get a great deal, and I get people not seeing my house because its not on clearance.
Why are there some parents out there that act all but, put out that they have children to "deal" with? When so many of us others would die to have children?
But more to the point, why is ok for people to behave badly and then those of us who don't get to sit the bench and watch our dreams through their lives? My dad would say,"It builds character." But, should those squeaky wheels need to build character too? I guess this is one thing much like IF that I will never understand. But, it does help me self-assess and try with all my might not become the squeaky wheel. But, I will voice my opinion so those who need to know will know how I feel.
I really needed to post this a while ago, but just haven't had the time or could get my thoughts in the right order. I hope this makes sense.
Please give me peace of mind about this. I know I am not supposed to understand, I know that you have something AMAZING planned for my life. I just needed to put this out there.
Thanks for all the many blessings you have given and continue to give me! I am truly blessed!