Monday, June 27, 2011

I took the plunge!!!

Ok, so it has been 2 years, I know it technically hasn't been "that long" in the world of IF. But to me it is an eternity! So, adoption has been weighing on my heart lately. I mean I have always wanted to adopt, just thought that it would be after we had our own children. I mentioned my real estate agent(REA) is an adoptive parent, we have friends who are in the process of adopting, and we want a baby badly; so why not look into it.

So... I contacted an agency today for information. I am not sure what the hubs will say, he hasn't really had a yay or nay reaction to it, but I think having friends who are doing it makes it a little easier for him. Its just information, so that we can read through it, discuss it, and decide if we want to go to an information meeting.

I talked with Bettye(REA) about her adoption. She shared her story, and told me that the feeling of holding that baby was the most wonderful feeling of her entire life. We talked about the fact that later in her daughter's adult life she had to deal with the birthmother becoming part of her daughter's life. But, that in moments of sickness, or accidents, her daughter made it evident that she was her MOM even when her birth mother was present. I really think that is my biggest fear with the whole process, well that and thinking we would have a baby and the birth mom changing her mind.

On a different note, my obgyn completely shocked the heck out of me at my annual last week. She recommended me thinking about gastric bypass surgery. I think I had to pick my jaw up off the floor. She said that she had 2 patients that had the surgery and just delivered one baby and the other has one on the way. She said that losing 100lbs would be ideal, and that doing it on my own will take a while. So, this would help me do it faster. I was like PEOPLE DIE FROM THAT!!! 10 out of 1000 to be exact. I googled... I know I shouldn't have, but I did. So in my adoption/ gastric bypass googling I found that they don't recommend you getting pregnant for 1 year after having the surgery... um hello sounds to me that the wait time to lose the weight/ get preggo is about the same. So her idea on, I am not getting any younger doesn't really add up cause I would be about the same age by the time I lose it or get out of the clear from the surgery. Way the options... Ummmm, Death possibility 10 of 1000 or work my but off the old fashioned way... I believe the later of the two is my choice. I mean yeah the idea of not having to work so hard is enticing, but then the idea of death really isn't an option. I mean I truly believe that when it is your time it is your time, but I really would rather that not be the way it happens.

Anyway, back to the original reason for the post... Adoption could be our answer. We shall see... lots of maybes and what ifs in our future between the house, weight, and babies.


  1. Congrats on taking the plunge! The waiting is oh so hard but the journey is amazing! Prayers coming your way!

  2. I am so excited to read this post!!! You know I say JUMP ON THAT ADOPTION TRAIN :)

    Not that there aren't adoption risks (we haven't heard from our bm in almost 2 weeks, I am starting to think she is changing her mind....) but it definitely helps to know there is more than one way to skin a cat, ya know what I mean??

    I would suggest the adoption route that we are following though. Agency adoption is a sure bet but private adoption is SO MUCH CHEAPER.

    Prayign for you guys, and scratch the bypass, you have the wheel power to do it on your own:)


  3. Thanks Ladies!!! You both have been part of me deciding this is something that we "can" do,

    Patiently - I was just reading your timeline this weekend and thinking.... man we should try this.

    Allison - how on earth do we find out about private adoptions??? My REA came and got me this afternoon to look at two more houses(both NOs) but she was telling me that if she hears of anyone pregnant and not wanting to keep it she was going to get them in touch with me, but I don't even know how to go about something like that.